we have the weirdest conversations in my Italian class.
Last night, we read a dialogue taken from a movie whose title i forget right now, but it is about a group of teenage boys in Palermo and their teacher. The boys are in a prison because they are sons of mafioso and very violent. Anywho, one of the boys writes a composition: “Com’e il baccio?” (what is a kiss?) wherein he waxes poetic about what it must be like to kiss a girl as he has never had the pleasure.
From a discussion of what a kiss really is, we moved to the possibility of changing a person. I was the only woman in the room to feel that a woman cannot change a man. I do think that people can change, but they have to do it themselves. Someone else cannot effect a change, they can only be supportive. Of course, i have a vested-interest in believing that one person cannot save another. After six and a half years of trying i had to finally give up – and i don’t think i am tooting my own horn when i say that if SOMEONE was going to be successful at saving a loved one, it would be a tenacious bitch like me. I either have to believe it isn’t possible, or become a bad person.
What do you think? Can people be changed/saved from themselves?